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Bondage for Beginners

If you’re just getting started with bondage, you may find yourself unsure of where to start or how to go about it. Sure, you don’t want to dive straight into the deep end and bring it up over a romantic dinner, but you do need to start somewhere. Here are some of our top tips for getting started with bondage and how to approach the idea with your partner:

Top Tips for Getting Started With Bondage

  • Don’t Make a Big Deal About It - If you’re bringing the idea of bondage up for the first time, don’t make a big deal about it. Unless you keep it casual, you run the risk of turning it into something a lot more serious than it is and worrying your partner. Instead of sitting down for a serious conversion, bring it up as you would something extremely light hearted and small.
  • Talk Openly and Honestly - Be ready to talk openly and honestly abou why you want to try bondage. Your partner may initially assume that you want to try it because you’re not feeling sexually satisfied, so put their mind and ease by letting them know that’s not the case. Focus on bondage being about exploring and growing as sexual partners, rather than a way to spice things up.
  • Know What You Want - Though you don’t need to know exactly what you want, it’s wise to have a rough idea of what type of bondage you are considering. Whether you reference something you’ve seen or an idea you have, be sure to give your partner an idea of what you’re hoping to try as there are a lot of different forms of bondage.
  • Don’t Put Pressure On - Your partner may need a little bit of time to consider whether or not they want to try bondage, so don’t put pressure on them to make a decision immediately. Also, try not to focus too much on wanting the perfect bondage experience and instead make it clear that you see it as something playful and enjoyable to try.

Giving Bondage a Try

When you’re giving bondage a try for the first time, it can be difficult to know what to expect. This is why it’s important to consider what you’re hoping to achieve and how. Here are some of the top things for you and your partner to consider:


  • What Sensation Are You Looking For? - Bondage is all about creating sensations and pleasures, so it’s important to consider what type of sensation you are looking for. Whereas some people like to involve a little bit of pain, others want to keep things soft and light. The type of sensation you are looking for will heavily impact the type of bondage you want to try. For example, are you interested in comfortable cotton ropes or something a little more heavy duty?
  • Do You Have a Goal? - It’s also important to consider what your goal is; are you looking to feel sexy or are you hoping for something a little more rough? Do you want to orgasm through rope play or are you more interested in being tied up and teased? Before getting started, decide what your goal is and ensure your partner is happy with it.
  • Do You Have a Plan? - When you’re trying bondage out initially, it’s a good idea to have a plan. Speak to your partner about what it is you’ll be doing and discuss what you both plan to do. Bondage and ties can be complex at first, but having a plan can help to keep things on track.
  • Are You Both Enjoying It? - Bondage is all about having an enjoyable sexual experience, so take the time to check in throughout to make sure you’re both enjoying it. Communicate with each other and let them know what is and isn’t working for you.

When it comes to trying bondage for the first time, be open and flexible about what to expect. Bondage is different for everyone and you won't know what you enjoy until you try it, so prepare to alter things as you go along. However, with a little bit of practice, bondage can become a fun part of your sex life.